Sex no account

”Maybe I was being too pragmatic about issues that are loaded with guilt, resentment and fear.After all, it’s far easier to talk theoretically about marriage than to navigate it.

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I don’t want to be afraid of talking honestly about my sex life with the man I’m married to, and that includes being able to at least raise the subject of sex outside of marriage.”“Good luck with that!

” he said.“We go into marriage assuming we’ll be monogamous,” I said, “but then we get restless.

Can I just have the occasional fling or a casual affair? If I asked her that kind of question, it would kill her.”“So you don’t want to hurt her, but you lie to her instead.

Personally, I’d rather know.”Well, I would rather know.

We slept together maybe four times over a few years. I never felt possessive, just curious and happy to be in his company.

After our second night together, though, I could tell this was about more than sex for him; he was desperate for affection.

If you read the work of Esther Perel, the author of the recently published book “State of Affairs,” you’ll learn that, for many wives, sex outside of marriage is their way of breaking free from being the responsible spouses and mothers they have to be at home. For them, adventure wasn’t the main reason for their adultery.

The first time I saw my favorite married man pick up his pint of beer, the sleeve of his well-tailored suit pulled back from his wrist to reveal a geometric kaleidoscope of tattoos.

So how do we deny such a need to the one we care about most?

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