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“I’m just glad she can get through to me” is the way this father sees the situation. Have we come to the point that the only way a child can reach her distracted father is by calling his name?

It was not a power struggle, test of authority, or desire for friendship.

All this eighth grader wanted was to catch her father’s attention. “I say ‘Dad, Dad, Dad, Dad,’ and then I say ’Dave’ and he pops up.

Some behaviors are acceptable and others are never even up for discussion.

We call this ‘derech eretz’ – a spiritual standard of living.

Slovie is the author of the parenting handbook, Raising A Child With Soul.

She gives weekly classes and has lectured throughout the U. You can reach slovie at [email protected] this article stimulates me to review my opinion about this subject. It 's not merely informing, but it really helps to shape and reshape our views on life. when my children were in school, it was always Mom and Dad, except when we were in a very crowded store, then a first name was often necessary when there where multitudes of mommy and daddies where there and the child needed attention.

My respect for my parents never ceased, I loved & honoured them & never regretted that we did not become buddy, buddy.

Respect does not mean domination but an upbringing that shows that relationships have boundaries of behaviour universally accepted. By that I mean shomer Shabbas and kashrus were important. My son and daughter in law have always called me Ima, and their children were taught to call me Bubby ( last name) and thir other Bubby this way with her last name as well.

Later, my daughter and I were in a real estate business together, my daughter asked if she could call me by my first name in business meetings as she was in her 20's and it worked well, at home it was still Mom.

so if the respect is there, under some circumstances, first names are preferable.

If kids call us by our first names we somehow feel as if we are young and ignore the feelings of approaching middle age. Honor and respect are basic foundations of family life.

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