Dating a longtime friend

Yet not every close friendship will develop into the kind of romance that would give Danielle Steele a run for her money.

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Mo Kurimbokus, a relationship counsellor, says, 'Think of it like foreplay.

All the time you're being friends, you're learning about each other.

Their judgement tends to be more reliable.' Sophie and Simon have now been married seven years and have just had their first child, Maggie Mae. 'I truly believe that because we were friends first our relationship has always functioned on a much deeper level, which is actually quite rare among couples.

It's difficult for me to define why it switched focus that day of the wedding, but, looking back, I think Simon was starting to get under my skin.

I'd go on dates with other men and find myself thinking about him, and once I joked that we should get together.

I suppose I was testing the water to judge his reaction.

I'm not the sort of bloke who takes the lead, so I sat back while she went on various dates with other men.

Secretly I hoped there might be a future for us, so when she proposed I couldn't have been happier – or more gobsmacked.' In her book, Things I Wish My Mother Had Told Me, Lucia van der Post writes: 'All I know is that love comes out of the blue, sometimes when you least expect it, and that the key is not necessarily to go looking for it but to keep your heart and mind open to a wider horizon.' Yet, where friendship is concerned, the trigger that instigates a full swing into commitment is complex. Perhaps Sophie had tired of flitting through relationships and wanted someone more dependable?

It was at her boss's wedding that Sophie Holland decided, with stone-cold certainty, that she wanted to be next down the aisle. Simon, one of her closest friends for the previous three years. We'd stayed overnight at his parents' house, and I woke up and thought, "I am going to ask him to marry me."' Until then Sophie, 40, had worked alongside Simon, 44, in a fabric shop in Soho, London.

She'd found this affable, gentle man appealing as a shoulder to cry on when her succession of thrilling but chaotic relationships dissolved.

He'd even sit with her in the pub and have a couple of warm-up drinks while she waited for a new date to arrive. 'On that day of the wedding, when everyone around me was saying how lovely he was, I suddenly thought they were right.

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